Back in December, our youngest, our BABY, turned 6. SIX! How did that happen?!?! Was I asleep for half that time? – every parent knows that’s not the case 😆 Here we were, with a now 6, 7.5, and 9 year old boys. Time had flown by!
Do you ever have those moments where you think to yourself – how are we here already? The days seem to last forever when raising a little one, but somehow years have flown by at the same time! This was one of those times.
“THE DAYS ARE LONG, BUT THE YEARS ARE SHORT.”– someone really smart
Raising a family, we often find ourselves in a chase. Constantly on the go, trying to keep up with the day before it gets away from us. Many of us (myself included), create to-do lists that are impossible to complete. And even if we do, we usually just add more to the list – amiright? 😉 There’s a neurological reason for that! 🤓
I listened to a podcast where they interviewed author Christy Wright. They were discussing work-life balance and ways to achieve that. Whether our work is at an office or at home, for a company or for our family, we can easily get wrapped up in the to-do lists we’ve created and what we believe needs to be accomplished that day. Our brains 🧠 love crossing off items on our to-do list because it releases dopamine, a neurotransmitter, that makes us feel good.
But if we’re only focused on the next task all the time, are we missing the good stuff? Our lives are passing by and we’re focused on crossing items off our list, instead of slowing down and enjoying the phase of life we’re in right now.
One thing she said that helps her, and led to the title of this post, is “be wherever your feet are”. Be present. Focus on what’s right in front of you. I know, I know, it’s easy to see all the laundry that’s not complete, the dishes piled in the sink, the million tasks we could do. But…
Slow down. Focus on your senses to enjoy the phase of life you’re in right now. The smell of your baby’s head. The way your spouse or loved one laughs. The feeling of little arms around your neck. This is what you’ll want to remember about this time, not what you were able to get done. Taking in these little moments throughout the day can help us slow down and keep us focused on the present moment.
As 2021 gets underway, I challenge you to create a different kind of to-do list. Consider what’s most important to you and create a category for each one – it may include your spouse, your children, your physical health, your mental health, friendships, you get the idea.
Decide whether you will accomplish that list each day or each week, and make sure you spend some of your time focused on each one. It can be as simple as a text to a friend, 30 minutes of exercise instead of social media, a prompt bedtime for time alone with your spouse.
Most importantly, be sure to keep your focus on right where you are in those moments. Not on your to-do list. Not dwelling on what happened yesterday or what might happen tomorrow. Take the time and “Be where your feet are”. Because, as I’m sure you’ve heard from others before, you’re going to miss it. 💕